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Sarah Walker's avatar

I really need to pull Refusing Compulsory Sexuality out of my TBR pile. The SBC targeting "willful childlessness" is just another form of the compulsory sexuality that's hidden in plain sight in the church.

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vōx's avatar

Thank you Sarah! This book is truly worth a read. It opened my mind on so many levels of compulsory sexuality, and you're completely right on "willful childlessness" as another form!

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Sarah Amador's avatar

“I found myself suddenly free to think about the reasons I might still want to have sex—connection, love, intimacy, comfort, support for my partner, and sometimes even stress relief. It gave me a framework to be honest, to rest, to refuse. To have sex on my own terms, if at all.”

Goodness, if that isn’t sexual liberation, then I don’t want it. It’s sobering and grievous that what we’ve called “liberation” has just been another set of chains. It feels like a mythical dream to believe I also could embody the above statement…and that it could be liberating for my spouse as well. But there is a spark of hope that I might try.

Thank you for this.

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vōx's avatar

Thank you so much, Sarah! I'm honored that you've captured a spark of a new way of being from my piece. Everything worth changing starts with that spark and that dream. I'm proud of you for trying.

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Gwen's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story! I absolutely relate to it and feel so seen!

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vōx's avatar

Thank you so much Gwen!

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